ALL parents fuck up in their parenting. We just need to learn how to repair it to heal our kid AND our relationship with our kid.
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Does your kid have a hard time with their other parent?
Being a parent is really hard. Our kids weren’t born with manuals. How can we lovingly support our co-parent so our kids can speak their truth and the adult listen to understand?
5 questions for when you freak out around your kid’s reading!
We live in a society that is molded by schoolish mindsets and expectations, and our human development is measured and held to set standards for what, when and how we do things and learn. Especially reading and writing!
How we solved our toothbrushing struggles
In my family toothbrushing has always been a struggle. Teo has had a really hard time remembering, and I have always thought it was my job (as his very responsible mom) to remind him.
End power struggles!
Power struggles messes up relationships between parents and kids. By doing this work we empower both ourselves AND our kids.
Triggers that turn us inside out
So, what is triggering for you? Is it toothbrushing? Or having to leave on time and your kid not ever getting ready? Or is it when your kid talks back? Or when you recognize that your kid has privileges you didn’t have as a child? Or maybe when they get upset or sad? Or don’t clean up their mess even though they agreed to do it?
We all have different triggers, and not only do we need to understand what they are – we also need to figure out what they are about.
The pitfalls of treating kids like adults
When we place too high expectations on our kids we may unintentionally set them up for failure. Yes, we need to help prepare them for the world, but by letting them practice being responsible, and with the awareness that we adults need to be ready to step in and take back that responsibility whenever it’s too much to handle for our kids.
Does the perfect parent exist?
Perfectionism isn’t a realistic expectation to have – not on ourselves and definitely not on our kids. We are human and it means we will keep on messing up. That’s okay, as long as we do the necessary repair work.