ALL parents fuck up in their parenting. We just need to learn how to repair it to heal our kid AND our relationship with our kid.
Category: Parent tips
Does your kid have a hard time with their other parent?
Being a parent is really hard. Our kids weren’t born with manuals. How can we lovingly support our co-parent so our kids can speak their truth and the adult listen to understand?
Raising a neurodivergent teen
My neurodivergent teen is developing and getting both more independent and autonomous – but in other ways that I hadn’t expected. I just need to stop comparing him to other kids AND TRUST him and his process.
End power struggles!
Power struggles messes up relationships between parents and kids. By doing this work we empower both ourselves AND our kids.
Triggers that turn us inside out
So, what is triggering for you? Is it toothbrushing? Or having to leave on time and your kid not ever getting ready? Or is it when your kid talks back? Or when you recognize that your kid has privileges you didn’t have as a child? Or maybe when they get upset or sad? Or don’t clean up their mess even though they agreed to do it?
We all have different triggers, and not only do we need to understand what they are – we also need to figure out what they are about.
The pitfalls of treating kids like adults
When we place too high expectations on our kids we may unintentionally set them up for failure. Yes, we need to help prepare them for the world, but by letting them practice being responsible, and with the awareness that we adults need to be ready to step in and take back that responsibility whenever it’s too much to handle for our kids.
Does the perfect parent exist?
Perfectionism isn’t a realistic expectation to have – not on ourselves and definitely not on our kids. We are human and it means we will keep on messing up. That’s okay, as long as we do the necessary repair work.